Promote a culture of non-violence, support victims, and reduce the cycle of violence toward women and girls.
As a part of our 2013 OneVoice Educational Forum Series, we covered domestic violence and heard from women who experienced domestic violence, including a near-death survivor who was left for dead by her abuser.
Thursday, June 27, 2013
11:30 a.m. to 1:00 p.m.
YWCA, 525 S. Quincy, Enid, OK 73701
2013 OneVoice Educational Forum: Domestic Violence Agenda
11:30 – Registration
11:45 – Welcome & Introduction – Kristin Davis, OWC, Exec. Director
11:50 – Intimate Partner Violence – Dr. Janet Sullivan-Wilson,
OU Health Sciences Center, Founding Member of the OK DV Fatality Review Board
12:05 – Kathy Bell, MS, RN, Tulsa Police Department, Forensics Expert
12:20 – Viviana Rountree, YWCA Enid, Women’s Services Director
12:30 – Rebuilding of Lives – Speakers Panel of Domestic Violence Survivors;
moderated by Ayanna Najuma, Contributor to The Oklahoman
and principal, Lincoln-McLeod.
12:50 – Questions and Answers
“In the past this has been viewed as a women’s issue…”
…Dallas Cowboys tight end Jason Witten is the 2012 Walter Payton NFL Man of the Year. Why? In large part because of Witten’s tireless commitment to ending domestic violence…As Rawlings said in a recent press conference: “In the past this has been viewed as a women’s issue, but it ain’t. It’s our problem.” The problem is not confined to a shocking spate of killings in Dallas, or to one major U.S. city. The New York Police Department reportedly receives 700 domestic violence calls every day. Domestic violence costs the United States more than $9 billion a year. More than 603 million women live in countries where domestic violence is not a crime. Globally, at least one in three women and girls are beaten or sexually abused in their lifetimes, usually at the hands of men…” (Click here, to see the full article from CNN)
How can I help a friend or family member who is being abused?
Don’t be afraid to let him or her know that you are concerned for their safety. Help your friend or family member recognize the abuse. Tell him or her you see what is going on and that you want to help. Help them recognize that what is happening is not normal” and that they deserve a healthy, non-violent relationship.
Acknowledge that he or she is in a very difficult and scary situation. Let your friend or family member know that the abuse is not their fault. Reassure him or her that they are not alone and that there is help and support out there.
Be supportive. Listen to your friend or family member. Remember that it may be difficult for him or her to talk about the abuse. Let him or her know that you are available to help whenever they may need it. What they need most is someone who will believe and listen to them.
Be non-judgmental. Respect your friend or family member’s decisions. There are many reasons why victims stay in abusive relationships. He or she may leave and return to the relationship many times. Do not criticize his or her decisions or try to guilt them. He or she will need your support even more during those times.
Encourage him or her to participate in activities outside of the relationship with friends and family.
If he or she ends the relationship, continue to be supportive of them. Even though the relationship was abusive, your friend or family member may still feel sad and lonely once it is over. He or she will need time to mourn the loss of the relationship and will especially need your support at that time.
Help him or her to develop a safety plan.
Encourage him or her to talk to people who can provide help and guidance. Find a local domestic violence agency that provides counseling or support groups. Offer to go with him or her to talk to family and friends. If he or she has to go to the police, court or a lawyer, offer to go along for moral support.
Remember that you cannot “rescue” him or her. Although it is difficult to see someone you care about get hurt, ultimately the person getting hurt has to be the one to decide that they want to do something about it. It’s important for you to support him or her and help them find a way to safety and peace.
For local resources on domestic violence, click here.